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Daily Love Tips and Ideas


Have you wondered how people last 10, 20 or more years together? Here are some of the secrets!

Accept The Short- comings
None of us are perfect. Some of us are sloppy. Some of us are perpetually late. It's just what happens. If a person spent 18+ years of their life a certain way, you aren't going to "retrain" them. And really, they are not with you to have a new mommy or daddy. They want a partner in life to love them the way they ARE.


Admitting your wrong
Some days couples argue about stuff. This most likely is small little arguements as the couples figure out in the end. In the end of the arguement if its not solved, one of them is going to notice that it's their fault for even starting about this arguement. That person will tell his/her partner that he/she is sorry, and of course the other person will forgive, because if both people really love each other, both couples cannot live in lives without each other.

Agree to Disagree
There are some issues that simply come down to personal choice. You like mayo. He hates mayo. There's no right or wrong there. You can try to force him to like mayo - but really, in life we are all different. We should respect each other's differences.

Just agree that she has her quirks and he has his quirks. You feel differently about the issue, and that's fine. You both do NOT have to agree 100% on issues. There's a reason that even close families often do not discuss politics or religion at the dinner table. Agree that you each have a point of view and that they differ. It is not your job in life to turn your partner into a clone of you.

Choose your Arguments Wisely
Each time you argue, it takes a portion of the joy out of your relationship. It also shows a lack of respect for each other, that you cannot sit and discuss an issue without resorting to out-shouting each other. If your partner insists while you're driving in the car that Layla was sung by Cream and not by Derek and the Dominos, it's not worth arguing over right then. Simply say "We'll look it up on Google when we get home."

Being in a relationship should never be about Being Right. It should be about both of you respecting each other and being happy TOGETHER. I'm not saying to be a doormat! But if it is something silly, find a way to agree to resolve it later - when it CAN be resolved easily.

Be Aware of Stressful Times
There are always going to be times that your partner is simply stressed out. He had a rough day at work, his boss yelled at him, and he comes home feeling very cranky. Sure, it isn't your fault, and it's not fair. But part of being a partnership is supporting each other against the world.

So don't take the grumpiness personally, and find ways to diffuse it. If he grumps, don't argue back - because the issue isn't the thing he's grumping about, it's just that he's full of angst. Get some food into you, maybe some wine, settle down to your favorite music or movie or TV show. Let him unwind a bit, and be there. Sometimes that security of love is what really makes the difference.

Now if someone ALWAYS comes home grumpy and this is a normal course of action - to take out the world's woes on you - then it's time for therapy. A couple should always be best friends together against the world. If one person is using the other as an 'easy punching bag', that is never right.

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